Can Relationship Counselling Help Even if I’m Single?
When you think of relationship counselling, you may picture a disgruntled couple sitting on opposite ends of a couch in a therapist’s office.
You may not typically think of relationship counselling as something that can be helpful even when you’re single.
But whether you’re trying to heal from a bad breakup or looking to get back into the dating scene, relationship counselling may be a great way to set yourself up for success.
Here at KMA, we believe you deserve to thrive in all of your relationships, whether you have a romantic partner or not.
We’re passionate about helping you learn what you deserve in relationships, and we’ve written this article to teach you how to get it.
By the end of this article, you’ll know about signs you could benefit from relationship counselling, three benefits of relationship counselling for single people, and what to expect from the counselling process.
How Do I Know if I Need Relationship Counselling?
When you’re in a relationship, signs you may benefit from couples counselling include communication issues, infidelity, or a lack of passion.
When you’re single, these signs can look different.
Signs you could benefit from relationship counselling include:
- You’re struggling with trust issues
- You have an anxious or avoidant attachment style
- You have unresolved feelings about past relationships
- You’re struggling to maintain healthy friendships or romantic relationships
- You have trouble communicating your needs and boundaries to other people
Relationship counselling can help you tackle these challenges and has other positive benefits.
The Benefits of Relationship Counselling for Single People
You don’t need to wait until you’re in a romantic relationship to improve how you feel in your interactions with other people.
Relationship counselling can set you up for success in future romantic relationships, but can also help your familial and platonic relationships.
Three benefits of relationship counselling for single people include:
1. It can help you learn what you want in future partners
Speaking with a relationship counsellor can help you create a list of traits and values you’re looking for in a future partner.
Maybe you’re looking for someone who’s a good listener, someone family-oriented, or someone who shares your sense of humour. Regardless, knowing what you want can be helpful when dating.
Speaking with a counsellor can also help determine whether you’re looking for someone else to meet needs that you can meet yourself.
For example, maybe you’re looking for a relationship to help you feel safe or secure. Speaking with a relationship counsellor can help you learn to provide a sense of safety to yourself.
2. It can help address other issues impacting your relationships
While it’s easy to blame our relationship struggles on the other person involved, we often play a larger role than we’d like to admit.
Speaking with a relationship counsellor can help address issues impacting your relationships, including:
- Self-esteem issues
- Insecure attachment styles
- Struggles with social anxiety
- Improving communication skills
3. It can help you improve your relationship with yourself
It may sound like a cliché, but the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself.
Speaking to a relationship counsellor can help you learn more about how you act in relationships, and how this is impacted by the relationship you have with yourself.
Improving your relationship with yourself can involve:
A strong relationship with yourself can help you strengthen your relationships with other people.
What Happens During Relationship Counselling?
During relationship counselling, you'll learn what a healthy and successful relationship looks like to you and build the skills you need to achieve it.
To process includes recognizing, understanding, and creating an action plan to address issues blocking you from getting what you want out of your relationships.
At KMA, our relationship counselling begins with a 50-minute introductory appointment.
We’ll create a customized plan of action for you, including matching you with the best therapist and mode of therapy for your needs.
We’ll establish a timeline for how often you need to attend therapy, and recommend any additional psychological services that may be helpful for you.
Next Steps for Finding a Relationship Counsellor
After reading this article, you now have an understanding of when to seek out relationship counselling, its benefits for single people, and what happens during relationship counselling at KMA.
At KMA Therapy, we’ve spent 14 years helping our clients learn how to thrive in their relationships with others and strengthen their relationships with themselves.
If you’re not yet ready to book an appointment, read these articles to learn more:
- If you’re struggling with self-esteem, read: 5 Tips to Improve Your Self-Esteem Today
- If you're curious about trust issues, read: What Causes Trust Issues - and How to Overcome Them
- To learn more about your attachment style, read: How Does Your Attachment Style Affect Your Relationships?