Weâ€™ve all heard this, and although it may be a bit of an exaggeration, it does hit the point that first impressions have a lasting effect on relationships, regardless of their type. We tend to make up our mind about someone within the first 15 seconds of meeting them, meaning how we initially present ourselves can be crucial. Here are a few tips to keep in mind, whether youâ€™re going on a first date or a job interview.
Be aware of yourself.
In first meetings our anxiety can to take over and we can lose ourselves, sometimes not even remembering what we said. Stop and take a breath. Be aware of your body and speech. Make sure youâ€™re sitting up straight and avoid jittering. Also, be sure youâ€™re not talking too fast. Be calm and make eye contact, both of which will radiate confidence.
Donâ€™t forget to ask questions. People love talking about themselves, but remember that this is an opportunity to not only to present yourself, but also to get to know someone else. If at a job interview, make sure you have read up on the company, and have a couple questions ready. Being inquisitive will show initiative.
Be your best self.
A first encounter is an opportunity to put your best self forward and show off what you are, rather than lying or covering up what youâ€™re not. It is all about putting your best foot forward. This is where dressing well plays a role. Dress for the job you want. If you think you shouldnâ€™t wear it, you probably shouldnâ€™t. Also, keep in mind that mood is temporary. So if you are in a bad one, it would be best to set it aside and allow for your best self to shine through!
Remember to relax.
Who knows you better than you? A positive first impression is perfectly attainable if you remember that there is no need to be nervous! At the end of the day you are presenting yourself and you are an expert on you. And if you canâ€™t quiet the butterflies, use them! They just mean that you care about the result, which shows you that youâ€™re in the right place. Just prepare the main points you would like to talk about, and stay cool, calm and collected. If you do feel like you may have been less of yourself, donâ€™t be afraid to acknowledge it! We all have off days, so donâ€™t be too hard on yourself if your first impression seems to be a bit out of your norm.
First impressions are important, but they are not everything.