Situationships Are Breaking Your Heart—Here’s How Therapy Can Help You Let Go
It was never “official”—but it still hurts like hell.
You didn’t get a title.
You didn’t get closure.
You got… mixed signals, 2am texts, inside jokes, and emotional whiplash.
Welcome to the world of situationships.
A place where you’re not quite dating—but not exactly strangers.
And when it ends? You're left grieving something that was never clearly defined in the first place.
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What Is a Situationship?
A situationship is an undefined romantic connection—more than a fling, less than a relationship. Think:
- You spend time together… but avoid “the talk”
- There’s emotional intimacy… but no commitment
- You act like a couple… until they remind you you’re not
- You keep hoping… they keep dodging
It’s confusing, emotionally exhausting, and—thanks to TikTok—wildly relatable.
Why Situationships Hurt So Much
People often say, “It’s not like you were in a real relationship.”
But the pain is very real.
Here’s why:
- Lack of clarity fuels anxiety. You’re always second-guessing where you stand.
- There’s no closure. Without a clear beginning or end, healing gets messy.
- It taps into attachment wounds. Especially if you fear abandonment or feel unworthy of love.
- You gave real energy. You were emotionally invested, even if they weren’t.
- You grieve the potential. You weren’t just mourning what was—you’re mourning what could’ve been.
Are You in a Situationship? Signs to Look For:
🔁 You’re stuck in a loop of intense connection… then distance
📱 You anxiously wait for texts that used to come quickly
🚫 They avoid labels—but expect relationship benefits
🧠 You overanalyze every interaction
💔 You feel more anxious than secure
If you're constantly asking, “What are we?”, you probably already know the answer.
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Why You Can’t “Just Move On”
Everyone says it:
“You deserve better.”
“It wasn’t even a real thing.”
“Just block them and forget it.”
But trauma bonds and attachment wounds aren’t solved by willpower.
Especially if:
- You grew up equating love with inconsistency
- You're replaying familiar emotional dynamics
- You're hoping this time, someone will finally choose you
Situationships often trigger deep emotional patterns that therapy can gently help you understand—and release.
How Therapy Helps You Let Go (for real this time)
You don’t have to process this alone. Therapy can help you:
- Identify your attachment style and how it plays out in dating
- Unpack why you stayed in a connection that wasn’t meeting your needs
- Set real boundaries around what love should feel like
- Work through grief without shame
- Rediscover your worth beyond how someone else sees you
Letting go isn’t about deleting their number.
It’s about healing the part of you that accepted crumbs and called it a feast.
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This Wasn’t Just “Nothing.” It Was Something—and You’re Allowed to Mourn It
Your pain is valid.
Even if it wasn’t labeled.
Even if no one else gets it.
Even if they “didn’t mean to hurt you.”
It’s okay to feel heartbroken.
And it’s okay to ask for help healing.
You Deserve More Than Mixed Signals and Maybes
At KMA Therapy, we support people navigating complicated relationships, heartbreak, and emotional confusion every single day.
If you're tired of second-guessing your worth, therapy can help you break the cycle—for good.
