In my own life, Iâve known many people whoâve had cosmetic plastic surgery for one reason or another. To fix the nose theyâve hated since grade school, to make their cup size one bigger, or to tighten their tummy after giving birth.
Letâs face it: Itâs totally normal to want to âfixâ things about ourselves, so that when we look in the mirror we can feel happy about the whole package.
Self-esteem comes from inner confidence, positive self-worth, and is influenced by our security during our upbringing. It canât be âfixedâ with a single procedure. Are you expecting other people to compliment you or like you more after the surgery?
Plastic surgery is a serious procedure and as we all know, shouldnât be undertaken without a lot of thought and serious consideration. The psychological change of saying goodbye to a body part you were given at birth is very large. What if you get the surgery and nothing emotional changes? What if you donât like the result of the surgery?
In my experience as a psychotherapist and relationship expert, Iâve counseled so many men and women who have had plastic surgery, only to be disappointed with the results. Many of them have indicated that they truly thought that fixing that âoneâ body part would make them happy. But plastic surgery can be addictive: similar to tattoos. Once youâve gone through one procedure, you spend time thinking, wishing, and itching for the next one.
a) What are my Expectations? Do I think I will be prettier, more popular, or have an easier time getting a date? If so, my best advice is to re-think plastic surgery. In my opinion, the most attractive quality on a first date is confidence, and that comes from within.
b) Have I Considered All Alternatives? What are some alternative methods I could take before the surgical approach? If youâre considering liposuction, have you made a reasonable effort to lose weight the natural way through diet and exercise? If youâre considering facial surgery, have you tried cosmetic acupuncture, creams, or botox?
c) See a Psychologist or Psychotherapist: A great therapist will help you to pull back the layers to understand where your issues (if any) lie. Talking these issues out with a psychotherapist will also help prevent you from making any rash decisions you might regret: ie: Getting breast implants after your ex-boyfriend cheats.